Cyber Me

Back in the 90ies when the internet started to conquer our private computers many people were afraid that people would pretend to be someone else and no one could keep control on that. There were no limits set to our imagination. We could transform into superheroes or talking dogs. Continue reading

Who is “WE”?

Following the book of the neuro-scientist Gerald Hüther Was wir sind und was wir sein könnten (What we are and what we could be) we should maybe start to think who We really are. The scientist wrote in 2011 rightly that in times of higher mobility and cultural interchange a different We-feeling exists than it prevailed in times of our great-grandparents. But a real signal of readiness for a new We isn’t perceptible. Why is this being the case? Continue reading

at first sight

From early childhood we are pointed to the fact that only our inner values count. To judge people by their appearance and physiognomy is regarded a superficial. This article is about these superficialities and, nevertheless, how they control our everyday lives.

There is no discussion that it is necessary to look at the character and behavior of a person but in a biological context our outer appearance plays also a certain role. When we look into the past – not our personal past but past life of our ancestors – we face a life of competition and struggle for resources. Also nowadays our lives are dominated by a competition about jobs and mates. Continue reading

Reading emotions

Since people are travelling thousands of kilometers within a few hours intercultural communication gets more important every day. Also the fact that people do not automatically live where they were born gives us the duty to read people’s intention more carefully than we used to do.

As long as we have the same goals (work) or interests (private) we have less communicational problems. We are more tolerant and lenient with wrong wordings or reduced talking speed from foreign people. The so called “foreigner talk” seems nice to us. We laugh about bad told jokes and don’t put every word on the scales.

But what if we don’t know each other or what if we don’t know if we are on the same side? Continue reading

The right attitude

Laughing is healthy, it keeps us fit und is strengthening the immune system and it is infectious. Feelings in general are extremely infectious. We all can hardly avoid joining in when somebody is laughing out loud. If you don’t believe try yourselves!

Meeting a cheerful friend after a long and hard business day lifts our spirits way faster than trying to relax at home. Probably we are laughing about the day’s misfortunes at the end of the day. But not only positive emotions are infectious. The mood of a really depressed person gets us down and sad movies give us food for thoughts.  It’s not only what people are saying but the whole attitude affects us. If we are watching two people in a conversation we can often observe that both are acting the same way. One person is copying the others posture like sitting cross-legged or supporting the head with the hand. Interacting with our counterpart leads to a bilateral imitation and results in an alignment of the other person’s mood.

Which sense does it make to cry while watching a movie or to watch the penalties with excitement even if it doesn’t change our lives? Continue reading

One picture is worth…

…a thousend words saying.

The first impression of a person is very hard to change. Even if we know we caught the person on the wrong foot we hardly change our mind. Biologically this comes from the fact that our species learned to avoid being exploited or cheated by interpreting the signals other people are sending. In terms of a photo for a job application this means the impression of being able to work in a team or at least willing to work.

The fear that we are assessed by our photo first and second by our skills is real. That’s why a photo on an application from is already forbidden or at least a no go in some countries, e.g. USA. Even more, because a decision whether you get employed or booked based on a picture is discriminating. Continue reading